Dating 8 years before marriage
I even had some friends assume we weren't married yet because we hated the idea of marriage — you know, like they did. You'll just stop having sex and bicker all the time! There that weird phenomenon of long-standing relationships falling apart after making it legal. How does all this relate to the phenomenon of the epic, half-decade engagements?You can run into unique challenges if you have an engagement that stretches many years. I've definitely seen times when a four-month engagement has been easier on couples than a four-year engagement.Yeah it sounds like I was lucky that I hadn't married him first, but I don't think the situation would have even happened if we would have waited longer to get married till we were both stable.The point of this is that living together before marriage gets very complicated in many ways. You two must have stayed together and have some idea what it would be like if you lived together.I've seen it too many times to count on the Offbeat Bride Tribe: if the engagement is longer than three years, plans shift so many times en route to the wedding date that you might as well be getting a four-year bachelor's degree in Wedding Planning Purgatory And Hellish Studies. Sometimes the challenges aren't based on how long you've been together — but how long you're planning the wedding. I'm going to go with no, we didn't wait too long — the slow-moving timeline we were on worked for both of us.Brides purchase a dress, and then a different one a year later, and then a third a few months before the actual wedding. It continues to work for both of us: we'd been together over ten years before we had a child (although half of that was not by choice). We're both pretty fiercely independent, and clearly, moving slowly has worked well for us as a couple.Really, the only true too long is if partners are mismatched in their timeline and expectations. Then again, if you're sick of waiting — maybe it's time to propose.Author of Offbeat Bride: Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides, Ariel acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites.
Over half also think the level of trust has increased as well as the love between them and their partner.A little over 40% also feel that since getting married they share a better mental wellbeing and over 30% feel that since getting married they have a better sexual relationship.Andreas and I were together for over six years before we got married, and living together for five of those.Stalling is fine if you never care about getting married ( or him ) but if its important to you I would end this and find someone who wants to marry in a more decent time frame. I personally would rather live with someone first and see how it goes in the first 6 months...perhaps he feels this way too.I guess my opinion on the whole "moving in" thing is a little bias since I had a bad experience.